Sex is a
subject that many associate with dreaming due to the Freudian view that dreams
represent our repressed drives and desires. One source worth considering for the basics,
particularly for teenagers experiencing wet dreams, is WebMD.
This site also
references a study in which 8% of the adults had dreams with some sexual
content. However, one should accept these results with caution since the
average age was about thirty, making the group non-representative of the
broader population.
The 8%
of dreams with some sexual content, which includes kissing, intercourse, and
masturbation, might be lower than many people expect. With the enormous focus
on sex in our everyday lives, from news to entertainment, 8% does seem like a
low number. However, this is what the study found.
There
are many possibilities in sex dreams, from an expression of conscious desires
continued into the dream cycle to symbolic representations of other situations
that nothing to do with sex. I find that an intimate or deep verbal intercourse
with another is often shown as sexual intercourse in a dream.
This may occur
with someone of the same sex or opposite sex. So if you dream that you have had sexual relations with someone of the same sex, do not assume that this means you
have homosexual tendencies. That is one possible meaning. Another
equally likely meaning is that you had a deep conversation with another person
where real bonding occurred, and the dream has nothing to do with the sex act or having
sexual desire for that person.
Both
types of dreams, symbolic of a bonding and indicative of homosexual activity,
were found in the Cayce readings. Often the sex dreams were warnings about the
dangers of irresponsible or excessive sex.
Some will find the Cayce view of sex
difficult to accept, and others will applaud it. In his readings, he states
that sexual intercourse outside of marriage is unacceptable to God. Of course,
one might ask what he means by marriage. Regardless of the definition,
I think that few would consider the relative free sexual expression that occurs
nowadays as constituting what Cayce and most others mean by marriage, whether
it is homosexual or heterosexual.
Edgar
Cayce strongly believed in the bible and claimed he read it once for every year
of his life. He was active in the Disciples of Christ church, and during his
early life, he would probably be considered mainstream in his Christian beliefs.
The life readings he gave that referred to previous lives began to change that.
He eventually accepted reincarnation, but it was only after a long struggle
with what he initially considered a strange concept that he worried was counter
to biblical teachings.
I think
one can naturally question whether Cayce’s personal views affected the
information that came through him in a reading. During the readings, his biblical
views based on his Christian upbringing did not filter out references to past
lives and the doctrine of reincarnation that he found foreign in his waking state,
but his personal views of sex and marriage could still have colored the
readings.
Some
believe there is a need for chastity to achieve true spiritual enlightenment.
In the early 1990s, a great many people were shocked when it was revealed by a
woman that Jiddu Krishnamurti had carried out a long love affair with her
mother and wife of his close associate.
This was particularly shocking
because many thought that Krishnamurti was above sexual desires and had
achieved a spiritual state without carnal desire. As a young man, some thought
that Krishnamurti was the second coming that the world waited for, and an
entire spiritual organization was built around him.
You must
always remember that your dreams are about you. If you find warnings in your
dreams about your sexual activity, don’t try to make a general statement that
applies to all of society out of it.
Look at yourself, your beliefs, and your
activity. Is your activity consistent with your moral code, or does it violate
it? Is your action beneficial to you and others around you? Or does it expose
you or others to dangers such as disease, emotionally instability, or
responsibilities for which you and they are ill prepared?
There is
nothing free about free love. Many teenagers have seen their college and career
dreams evaporate as the result of a momentary bad decision. And even excessive safe
sex that you feel you can handle emotionally does not protect your partners
from psychological or emotional trauma, and it may indicate you have an addiction.
We affect everyone we contact; we leave them better off or worse off as the
result. And if we leave them worse off, that is something we will eventually
have to face in ourselves.
During
my lifetime, I have encountered several women whose lives were unalterably changed
during their early teenage years as the result of a disastrous sexual
relationship for which they were not ready. They gave themselves to their partner
totally, believing it was true love. And when it ended badly, they were
devastated.
Years later, these women were still struggling with deep-seated
psychological problems and wounds that may never heal. And perhaps the men involved also carried with them unresolved psychological trauma.
There
are other dreams with sexual connotations that normally are not related to sex.
Sometimes in a dream, you may see someone naked, or find yourself partially or
completely naked. The dream could be saying the other person is an
exhibitionist or you are an exhibitionist, but more often it is because someone
has become exposed emotionally.
If you see another person naked in a dream, the
person who is exposed in waking life is probably not that actual person. The
person naked in the dream is someone who reminds you of the person actually
exposed.